Sex is one of those things that can either make or break your relationship. Sex can be exciting, fun, romantic, and satisfying, but it can also become very stale, boring, and dissatisfying.
The Journal of Sex Research did a couple of researches on the topic of boring sex. After some time, they realized that as much as 43% of men and 28% of women tested found sex to be boring with their current partners.
These numbers aren’t very positive and something must be done about it. If you happened to stumble upon this article, then chances are your sex life is quite boring. If that’s the case, then this is the article for you.
In this article, we will be talking about the things to do when sex is boring with your partner. So, without wasting too much of your time, let’s begin.
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Uncover the Issues
The best thing you can do is talk things out with your partner. However, this is also one of the most difficult approaches as not many couples feel comfortable discussing it.
Unfortunately, this is something that has to happen one way or another. Unless you happened to be a sex guru, then your sex life will become stale and boring at some point
When talking things out, you might uncover certain medical conditions with your partner. These conditions could be the roof of the problem, and the root of dissatisfying sex life. Some of the most common medical issues include ADHD.
But that’s not all of it. Stress is also a huge problem and a huge obstacle for couples. Stress could also be the cause of boring sex as it tends to preoccupy people’s thoughts instead of your partner’s naked body.
Regardless of what the issue is, you have to talk it out and uncover it. Trust us when we say this, you’ll feel much better afterward and maybe even go straight to lovemaking.
Tell Your Partner How You Feel
This is yet another one of those “tips” that have to do with communicating with one another. There is no way around it; talking is the best cure when it comes to sex.
Sure, you might try other things but those are all short-term options while the main problems persist.
Whenever you feel as sex is boring, the best thing to do is to sit down and talk about it. If you notice that your partner is the one that’s’ dissatisfied in bed, then maybe you should start the conversation.
Here are some conversation-starters:
- Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been acting strangely in bed lately. Is everything okay?
- We haven’t been very intimate lately, do you have a moment to talk about it?
- I feel as we’re losing the spark, do you want to maybe try something else in bed?
While these are only examples of how you can start a conversation, we cannot help you any further as you’ll have to figure it out on your own. Each couple has its problems and each couple has to figure it out themselves.
How To Spice Things Up
If you paid attention so far in the article, then you would have noticed the last conversation-starter we mentioned.
“Do you mind if we try something else in bed?”
A question that is both frightening and exciting at the same time. But why is that? A lot of people are open about their likings and fetishes, while others are locked up in a cellar.
For the number of people that share what they love and hate in bed, there are a host of others that don’t feel comfortable doing the same. If your partner happens to resemble one of those people, then we can understand why you’d feel scared to ask this question.
But there is nothing to be afraid of as this is something that simply has to happen, otherwise, your relationship will go beyond stale.
There are great ways, that are also risk-free, to spice things up in bed. We will be mentioning those that will make sure nothing backfires on you. So, here it goes.
Let’s get this one out of the way, role-playing is a great way for exciting sex. Role-playing simply means acting out a fantasy in a safe environment. Both of you are supposed to create a sexual act where either one of your, both of you, or none of you act like you’re a different person.
You’ve probably heard about role-playing in movies, shows, and even some cartoons. It’s a very common way to spice things up, as nearly 25% of couples do it to improve their sex life and make it less boring.
Do you feel as you’re lacking passionate sex lately? If so, then this is yet another great way to improve on the boring sex life. A lot of people forget that passion is what keeps relationships together, not the need for one another.
You need to stop making sex a need and turn it into a want. This is something that a lot of couples struggle with, as they feel sex is something they “must do”.
Stop making it a chore and start making it about passion.
Try Out Sex Toys
This is yet another great way to spice things up, but not a lot of people are up to it. This is quite the same as the first one as you know if your partner will approve of it. In most cases, they will, but you’ll need to test the water first.
And that’s exactly why people are scared to do it. They don’t know whether it will backfire on them. But if you feel as nothing else works, then you’ll have to ask the question.
Just don’t make it a surprise. Remember, communication is key.
Do you know what turns your partner on? Do they know what turns you on? If not, then maybe it’s time to get to know each other more. Kinky sex used to be very taboo. Nowadays, it is completely safe and fun.
Exploring kinks is a great way to improve your boring sex life by doing the things that turn you on the most.